A blog about babies: the babies I lost, the babies I never had, the baby who made me a Mama.

Wednesday, July 7, 2010

Three



Three years ago, I married Lawyer Guy in the 19th-century chapel at my old high school. It was a hot day, but the old stone kept us cool in our formal clothes, even without air-conditioning. We stood under a chuppah of white lace knit by my best friend, Doctor Lady, in front of a deacon and a rabbi and promised to be always faithful to each other in words spoken by countless other brides and grooms in countless other weddings.

Our home is filled with reminders of that day-- gifts and photos, the framed invitation, and that very same square of white lace folded at the end of our bed. I treasure remembering how happy we both were, how much love we felt (from each other and from all of our guests), how months of planning became one beautiful day.

I didn't know then that three years later we would be facing these challenges or grieving these losses. But I could have predicted that Lawyer Guy and I would find a way to work through them. I could have predicted that--despite our differences and occasional arguments--we would each become the rock for the other, our mutual support and strength and stability.

Three years ago, I made the best decision of my life, and every day I'm rewarded for it.

17 comments:

  1. Heartfelt congrats to you and LG on your anniversary! :)

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  2. Happy anniversary! Having a person who stands by you through thick and thin makes IF a little easier to bear.

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  3. congrats and happy anniversary!!!

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  4. Congratulations on your anniversary! This is a lovely post and it looks like it was a lovely day. My dad has a saying: You don't really know someone until you're forced to eat a sack of salt with him (the sack of salt a metaphor for hard times). We didn't ask for this. And, goodness knows, it's the type of thing that separates a lot of people. But the truly lucky among us discover that their marriages/partnerships are made out of tough, beautiful material indeed.

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  5. All my love to you and LG. xo

    July is a lucky month for you, let's keep the luck goooooooinnnnnnnnggggggggg!!!!

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  6. Happy Anniversary! I agree with you...I would have never anticipated my husband and I would have been dealt this hand but I would have thought we would find a way to deal with it, together.

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  7. This makes me all teary-eyed. :) Congratulations and happy anniversary. I hope this year brings you both wonderful things.

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  8. Happy anniversary to Sloper and LG!

    Hope this year brings lots of great things for you two xx

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  9. Aw that post gave me goosebumps! Isn't it amazing when you find that person you click with? The one you know, no matter what crap life throws at you, as long as you have him everything else will work out. Happy Anniversary!! To many many more years to come!

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  10. Aww, looks like a gorgeous wedding. It's no coincidence that many marriage services remind you that the decision involves supporting each other through great sorrow...

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  11. Happy anniversary! Here's to many more years of wedded bliss!

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  12. Awww...happy anniversary!
    It's great that you've found someone to be with you through thick and thin.

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  13. Awwwwe, happy anniversary SS!! I hope this year is full of many wonderful things for you both!!

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  14. Wow, what a beautiful chapel! I love it!!! I just wish your picture was a little bit bigger, so I could check out your wedding dress (I am such a sucker for those TV shows in which people try on wedding dresses, and I felt the need to ogle yours as well :)).

    Very happy anniversary, and my heartiest congratulations on having paired up so satisfactorily. I'm glad you are feeling lucky today, and as suchagoodegg also said, i hope the luck overflows into your baby-making this month too!

    What are you guys doing to celebrate? Funnily, E and I have both completely forgotten our anniversary twice in a row. We'll try to remember this year (August 5, coming up!).

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  15. Aww! Happy anniversary! This is so sweet. I too often look around at our wedding photos etc. and think how innocent we were then, and long to be that happy, untinged by heartache, again. I know I never will be, but I also know that our marriage and bond has been strengthened throughout this IF journey. I'm sure yours has too. I hope you were able to truly enjoy celebrating your day!

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  16. Happy anniversary! This was a lovely post. Your wedding sounds wonderful. I hope you may soon share the love with a little one.

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  17. Congratulations on three years! I hope next year you are able to share your anniversary with a sweet babe to complete your family.

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