A blog about babies: the babies I lost, the babies I never had, the baby who made me a Mama.

Thursday, November 25, 2010

Thank You Loss and Infertility

...for showing me that my husband and the immense love we have for each other means more than anything, even having a baby.

...for helping me see that a family of two is as strong and intimate and important as one of three or four or five or more.

...for making my marriage into a partnership and a true team.

...for revealing to me the incredible sympathy, compassion, and kindness in the hearts of "strangers" all over the country.

...for encouraging me to reach out to people I see suffering around me.

...for convincing me that I am strong enough, brave enough, and determined enough to not only be a mother, but to be a great mother.

....for curing me (almost) of my materialistic fantasies and focusing my dreams where they should be: on the baby I want to love and care for, not the clothes to dress it in or the crib to put it in or the stroller to wheel it around in.

...for forcing me to smile through tears, search for rainbows in storm clouds, and write lists like this one on the off-chance that they might be true.


  1. What a beautiful post! Today, I am thankful for you, Sweet Sloper. XOXO.

  2. this is so lovely, thank you for sharing this.

  3. This is beautiful, and I really needed to read this today. Thanks, SS. I hope you have a lovely Thanksgiving.

  4. Thanks for this, Sloper. <3 Happy Thanksgiving.

  5. Ok, seriously. Did ydou really have to go and make me cry? :)

    This truly is a beautiful post. Thank you.

  6. Wow...your words are amazing! I hope you're doing OK with the family today (and tomorrow if you decide to go). I'm still crossing everything that AF stays far, far away tomorrow!

    Happy Thanksgiving:)

  7. Lovely list, and hope you had a very happy Thanksgiving!

  8. Happy (belated) Thanksgiving, Sloper. You're right about the family of two, and all the other things, as well.

  9. I love this. I really really love this.

  10. Beautiful. And so very true.