tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1370623155565789372.post7244732898326034818..comments2023-05-09T02:54:19.314-07:00Comments on Park Slope Promised Land: A Short List; or, Facing Up or Wallowing In?Secret Sloperhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16007764157682145537noreply@blogger.comBlogger16125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1370623155565789372.post-23600291552746572632011-02-04T15:35:12.959-08:002011-02-04T15:35:12.959-08:00Phew! I was worried yesterday and checked your blo...Phew! I was worried yesterday and checked your blog as soon as I got up (I had an ectopic) and I am very pleased to hear that things are so far so good.<br /><br />Relax and try to do something fun this week.Kathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13196968417331947398noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1370623155565789372.post-12196988062739482212011-02-04T11:23:25.880-08:002011-02-04T11:23:25.880-08:00You have every right to have all of those fears af...You have every right to have all of those fears after everything you have been through. I will be praying for you and your little bean! Hope today went well! Keep your chin up!Tashahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09277108826235119320noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1370623155565789372.post-36466943817701657732011-02-04T06:44:44.759-08:002011-02-04T06:44:44.759-08:00Hold on! I'm rooting for you. Keep being go...Hold on! I'm rooting for you. Keep being good to yourself.Mrs. Lemonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00755463276353064296noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1370623155565789372.post-11366923731274083982011-02-04T06:21:24.020-08:002011-02-04T06:21:24.020-08:00I know nothing that I say will help ease your fear...I know nothing that I say will help ease your fears. But I do want you to know what I'm here, and I'm thinking about you.<br /><br />xoAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1370623155565789372.post-86629458519762054332011-02-04T05:14:20.896-08:002011-02-04T05:14:20.896-08:00Hang in there, friend. I know it's hard, I kn...Hang in there, friend. I know it's hard, I know. Fear is a comfortable enemy, especially in the torture of the early days. <br /><br />Wishing you nothing but goodness today. One minute at a time.Allisonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02571149055152186880noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1370623155565789372.post-23699202738591787172011-02-04T04:56:05.826-08:002011-02-04T04:56:05.826-08:00I am sending you tons of good thoughts for your sc...I am sending you tons of good thoughts for your scan today. I hope it goes really well!! <br /><br />I think it's a good idea to list out your fears. It can help show you how "ridiculous" some of them are but also I think it helps to not have just an overall fear that permeates things. You are allowed to worry about the immediate concerns now. The rest you have to shelve.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1370623155565789372.post-35192270115434243852011-02-03T19:50:12.817-08:002011-02-03T19:50:12.817-08:00I am sending so many good thoughts your way right ...I am sending so many good thoughts your way right now. I hope that writing your fears down brought you some relief, and that tomorrow's appointment allays still more of your fears. Every day you're pregnant IS a good day.My Dusty Uterushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03701245749867850799noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1370623155565789372.post-91790227221880864382011-02-03T18:53:56.630-08:002011-02-03T18:53:56.630-08:00I wish I had words of wisdom. All I can say is th...I wish I had words of wisdom. All I can say is that I'm thinking of you and wishing you a wonderful appointment. And, many more wonderful ones to come.Rebeccahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05382638658909144208noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1370623155565789372.post-82950349988599095222011-02-03T18:50:04.782-08:002011-02-03T18:50:04.782-08:00I was TERRIFIED of having an ectopic and a uterine...I was TERRIFIED of having an ectopic and a uterine pregnancy with the IVF cycle. Terrified. Losing two because one is in the wrong place is just so, very, wrong. I'm sorry you feel like absolute dog shit, and I will be thinking of you tomorrow and waiting to hear from you. ((hugs))~C~https://www.blogger.com/profile/17023387821284924172noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1370623155565789372.post-47619485960295392352011-02-03T18:27:57.379-08:002011-02-03T18:27:57.379-08:00Thank you for the comment on my blog yesterday. I&...Thank you for the comment on my blog yesterday. I've shared these fears and the intense hatred of statistics, but I have so much hope for you tomorrow! (Also, I had a pain in my left side with my pregnancies and none were ectopic.)aplusefforthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12142056896638707180noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1370623155565789372.post-5631406192797951162011-02-03T16:42:38.268-08:002011-02-03T16:42:38.268-08:00I wish I had a crystal ball to tell you how this w...I wish I had a crystal ball to tell you how this would all play out...that's what I always wanted in early pregnancy. Someone to just tell me IF THIS IS IT or not NOW, so I can know whether or not to get attached or to just wait for what feels like the inevitable end. <br /><br />I've got a good feeling for you Sloper, and I'm hoping and praying so hard for your little October baby.<br /><br />Sending you strength & positive vibes for tomorrow's scan.ALhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09150067629614839175noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1370623155565789372.post-82408757129803871002011-02-03T16:22:33.315-08:002011-02-03T16:22:33.315-08:00I wish that I had words to help you with your fear...I wish that I had words to help you with your fears. I know how incredibly difficult this is.<br /><br />I'm sending you all the positive, happy vibes I can for tomorrow. (((HUGS)))Kellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08507118457609696378noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1370623155565789372.post-9346043389037482842011-02-03T15:44:40.083-08:002011-02-03T15:44:40.083-08:00If its any consolation, I've had one of these ...If its any consolation, I've had one of these very unique fears too --twins, one ectopic, one in the right place, and losing both in the end. It was kind of ridiculous given that in my gigantic super-duper fertile family, no woman has managed to throw out two eggs at the same time. I know this for sure because, if they had, their partner's super sperm would have found, cornered and fertilized those suckers to produce 2 disgustingly healthy babies in 9 months. Despite knowing all of this, this fear gave me palpitations for a whole WEEK.<br /><br />And it manifested when I had not even a single loss, when I imagined myself a happy fertile bunny.<br /><br />After you have been through loss and IF, of course, your brain goes ballistic. Its bloody unavoidable.<br /><br />Hang in there. The only thing that will neutralize these fears is time. <br /><br />Hoping for the best news tomorrow!!!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15553205805046479504noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1370623155565789372.post-4322091802058104452011-02-03T15:43:13.698-08:002011-02-03T15:43:13.698-08:00Hang in there, I know how hard this is. I will be...Hang in there, I know how hard this is. I will be thinking of you and sending lots of positive vibes your way....cdghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13174907373129154516noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1370623155565789372.post-30520817004008097972011-02-03T14:54:49.344-08:002011-02-03T14:54:49.344-08:00I wish there were a way to take away all the fear ...I wish there were a way to take away all the fear and anxiety. It's just not fair that we can't be ignorant FHs. Good luck tomorrow and I hope you feel better.Mhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16628425225127969675noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1370623155565789372.post-32186916073974037982011-02-03T14:41:32.432-08:002011-02-03T14:41:32.432-08:00OK, first to allay your ectopic fears:
-If it were...OK, first to allay your ectopic fears:<br />-If it were ectopic, it would be far too soon to feel it. Pain wouldn't kick in until 6.5-8 weeks pregnant. You probably have a cyst or something. Apparently those can be a good thing, since they pump out a lot of progesterone. I had one the size of a baseball, and all was well...<br />-The uterine crampiness during sleepgasm practically proves to me that it's in your uterus. I polled women who had had ectopic pregnancies about this when I was early in this pregnancy and got 5 responses, including my own: 5 out of 5 of us had NOT experienced any uterine cramping during ectopic pregnancies, and 5 out of 5 of us ('cause we were all repeat losers) HAD felt some cramping during uterine pregnancies. I think that's enough data for a significant p-value, even!<br /><br />Second, your imagined odds of success here reflect a good mental state-- you're thinking a 10% chance of healthy baby? Shit, that's practically clueless-preggo-optimism! Good for you to be thinking so positively!!! I mean, considering what you've been through!<br /><br />Third, I am sooooooo anxious and hopeful for you tomorrow!!! When I read 'scan tomorrow', my heart kind of did a little cold jerk in reaction... How fucking terrifying. I am waiting with baited breath for your (good) news, and I feel for you so much right now...Lesliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12445064184402702224noreply@blogger.com