tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1370623155565789372.post3624247742594631714..comments2023-05-09T02:54:19.314-07:00Comments on Park Slope Promised Land: Thickening the Plot; or, I Call In the ExpertsSecret Sloperhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16007764157682145537noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1370623155565789372.post-15135459928791406942010-01-09T05:47:00.940-08:002010-01-09T05:47:00.940-08:00Thanks for the advice, everyone. Gidget, I get whe...Thanks for the advice, everyone. Gidget, I get where you're coming from and think that "just relaxing" is probably the best course of action for you and your husband. I'm in a different place in my TTC (trying to conceive) journey with cycles that are very similar to Stef's and require greater monitoring (and perhaps at some point, intervention).<br /><br />Plus, after almost a year of this, the "fun" is pretty much gone. Never a bad idea to try to bring it back, though!Secret Sloperhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16007764157682145537noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1370623155565789372.post-26474439404681281732010-01-08T13:40:02.721-08:002010-01-08T13:40:02.721-08:00Ah, Gidget. I know your advice wasn't mean as...Ah, Gidget. I know your advice wasn't mean as anything other than kindness from your heart. . . but TTC (trying to conceive) is a lot less fun after a miscarriage. I became a Sex-Nazi after mine! <br /><br />If you CAN take Gidget's advice, please do so! But if you are like the rest of us that have had losses, then I would say that temping is a good method, but it is VERY individualized and takes several cycles to figure out. For ME, 98.0 would have been post-o, but it might not be one for you. So, perhaps keep temping through the rest of this cycle (if it goes up, that's a great pregnancy sign), and then start temping in future cycles from day 1. If nothing else, it gives you a feeling of "doing something" each day and seeing the patterns.<br /><br />Hugs.Katiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08961948894847619115noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1370623155565789372.post-89327852318468988632010-01-08T13:20:34.729-08:002010-01-08T13:20:34.729-08:00While I respect Gidget's advice and believe th...While I respect Gidget's advice and believe that it works for her, it wouldn't work for me-- My cycles are very irregular, I ovulate anywhere from CD20-CD45 and DH and I aren't able to have sex regular enough to just leave it up to chance that we'll hit the right days. Plus, we've been trying almost a year and have moved on to the fertility meds...<br /><br />As you know, I temp, and 98.0 sure sounds like a post-o temp to me!!Stefanie Blakelyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13084332204236959880noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1370623155565789372.post-19968168093996846742010-01-08T08:49:12.849-08:002010-01-08T08:49:12.849-08:00I'm going to give you some advice--you can tak...I'm going to give you some advice--you can take it or leave it, I won't be offended, just my thoughts...trust me, I know what you're going through, I'm in the midst of it myself, as you know.<br /><br />I don't even know what half of the abbreviations you're using mean. I've never taken my temperature while trying to get pregnant--come to think of it, I don't even think we own a thermometer. I was actually talking about trying to figure out when I'm going to ovulate with my hubby last night and he said to me, "You know what? Let's just not worry about it. The more you worry, the harder it will be. Whatever happens, happens. We'll just have sex when we want and keep a positive attitude, and it'll happen." <br /><br />At first, I didn't agree with him AT ALL. I had been thinking about charting and all that stuff, but the more I thought about it, I think he's right. Worrying about all of that will just increase my stress level. As long as we try to have sex regularly in the middle of the cycle, I think that will be enough for now. I'm going to just go with the flow, and it'll happen eventually. If it doesn't after 9-12 months, we'll go get things checked out.<br /><br />So, after all that rambling, my advice to you is to just try to go with the flow. Trying to get pregnant shouldn't be like a job, it should be fun! :)<br /><br />Hugs to you!Fidgeting Gidgethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03903926675948152931noreply@blogger.com