tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1370623155565789372.post3620983899285483669..comments2023-05-09T02:54:19.314-07:00Comments on Park Slope Promised Land: Sad Goodbyes; or, People in Your NeighborhoodSecret Sloperhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16007764157682145537noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1370623155565789372.post-8630205335484770982010-11-08T14:26:13.410-08:002010-11-08T14:26:13.410-08:00That is just heartbreaking. How tragic. I think th...That is just heartbreaking. How tragic. I think the fact that you showed your care and concern will help them realize that you know how they feel. You are a good neighbor, and a good friend.Alisonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02010422089639320117noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1370623155565789372.post-52659729633770902522010-11-08T13:45:50.603-08:002010-11-08T13:45:50.603-08:00Oh so sad. I lost my baby to my body and my doggy...Oh so sad. I lost my baby to my body and my doggy to cancer in the same week. I like to think that my doggy went to be with my baby. okay I'm welling up now for you and your neighbors because I know you are all hurting. Sigh.heartinchargehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13201855179487928791noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1370623155565789372.post-83066452750764134542010-11-05T18:27:27.862-07:002010-11-05T18:27:27.862-07:00Oh this is so sad. The loss of a pet is truly deva...Oh this is so sad. The loss of a pet is truly devastating. I completely understand the temptation to share your own loss, but I'm sure your empathy and heartfelt feeling came through loud and clear.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1370623155565789372.post-51670258266601800502010-11-05T14:41:32.149-07:002010-11-05T14:41:32.149-07:00So sad, your poor neighbors. We had one camping tr...So sad, your poor neighbors. We had one camping trip, out in the middle of nowhere not at a campsite, where we thought B&F ran off into the woods during a hike. We couldn't find them for about an hour, and we were calling and calling and calling them, and they are very obedient dogs. We enlisted the neighbor campers to keep their eyes out. The engineer rehiked our hike at a sprint, and I talked to the neighbors and stayed closer to camp calling and looking. I about had a nervous breakdown imagining them starving to death, freezing to death, or being killed by a wolf or mountain lion. FINALLY I found them, they'd just worn themselves out and made a bed out of a giant pile of leaves about, oh, 100 yards from camp. But the dread and anxiety and sadness and worry while I pondered their fate during that hour almost completely incapacitated me and my ability to think or act.~C~https://www.blogger.com/profile/17023387821284924172noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1370623155565789372.post-34471799464705130642010-11-05T12:59:02.787-07:002010-11-05T12:59:02.787-07:00Oh, Sloper, I'm so sorry:( That's awful. A...Oh, Sloper, I'm so sorry:( That's awful. And the parallels between this and loss - while not exact, I know - are so achingly clear. <br /><br />You know, I think people who are dealing with grief sense the deep wells of it in someone else. And I'm betting that your coming by, your letting them know how devastated you are for them, made a huge difference to them.Adelehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06955659206478903815noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1370623155565789372.post-79253927677662482362010-11-05T12:39:25.877-07:002010-11-05T12:39:25.877-07:00Beautiful post. And sad. I guess this is one of th...Beautiful post. And sad. I guess this is one of the silver linings of infertility and miscarriage - that we are more sensitive than we might have been to others' loss. I'm so sorry your neighbors lost their dog in such a tragedy. Just awful.Mohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01671855540466269330noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1370623155565789372.post-960101685893283052010-11-05T12:34:43.092-07:002010-11-05T12:34:43.092-07:00Oh no. I'm so sorry for your neighbors.
And I ...Oh no. I'm so sorry for your neighbors.<br />And I understand what you write about wanting to tell. I've been in similar situations... but you're probably right in that it would be more for your comfort. Sigh. Sorry this is such a hard week all round.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1370623155565789372.post-50732318362828644792010-11-05T11:08:53.480-07:002010-11-05T11:08:53.480-07:00Oh, Sloper, this put me on the verge of tears! Nea...Oh, Sloper, this put me on the verge of tears! Nearly about to bawl! I loved this post b/c it wasn't about TTC and yet it was. I'll hold my little Bella a little closer tonight, too. I don't know what I'd do without her--when we're down they seem to make us feel better, don't they?So-Calledhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12995728640451748880noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1370623155565789372.post-39862601846414172232010-11-05T07:39:12.214-07:002010-11-05T07:39:12.214-07:00Oh, I am so sorry for your neighbors. But NO, I do...Oh, I am so sorry for your neighbors. But NO, I don't think that Bella will be the sad reminder...<br /><br />I was just talking to one of my friends about this-- how I grieved with my dog died, and I grieved when my grandmother died, and I grieved when my embryos died... but the grief over the dog/grandma was more pure. That grief wasn't tinged with jealousy for people who still had dogs and grandmas AT ALL. If anything, it could be somewhat of a COMFORT to interact with living dogs and grandmas. That's partly why it is so shocking to experience the envy aspects of pregnancy loss-- it just isn't a part of any other kind of grief. Don't you think? <br /><br />I also know what you mean about the urge to tell. I told my friend with breast cancer about the miscarriages for similar reasons, and then felt foolish... oh well.<br /><br />Anyways, I am very sorry that grief has hit your building in multiple apartments this month, and I am looking forward to when your luck changes and children and puppies fill the atmosphere again...Lesliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12445064184402702224noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1370623155565789372.post-21474735580934180792010-11-05T05:39:01.179-07:002010-11-05T05:39:01.179-07:00Oh, that is so sad. I'm so sorry for your fri...Oh, that is so sad. I'm so sorry for your friends.Rebeccahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05382638658909144208noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1370623155565789372.post-31613500634086201042010-11-05T05:28:28.600-07:002010-11-05T05:28:28.600-07:00I have that feeling often, wanting to share about ...I have that feeling often, wanting to share about my IF and loss but not being sure if it really is appropriate. Hugs to you and your friends during this sad time.cdghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13174907373129154516noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1370623155565789372.post-2363023008336513652010-11-05T04:32:13.045-07:002010-11-05T04:32:13.045-07:00I can't imagine what they are going through. I...I can't imagine what they are going through. If anything ever happened to Danica, I would be completely devastated. You were so sweet to go over and offer your condolences. I hope you snuggled with Bella extra tight last night.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1370623155565789372.post-17526221190752837512010-11-04T23:24:54.951-07:002010-11-04T23:24:54.951-07:00The loss of a pet is, for lack of better articulat...The loss of a pet is, for lack of better articulation at the moment, effin' hard. No two ways about it. It's a ridiculous amount of heartbreak to slowly watch your furry one's life ebb away, but it's just as helplessly sad for it to unfold in such an unpredictable and cruel way like for your neighbors' pup. As a very biased someone with a house full o' canine and feline fur, I don't know how these kinds of things *can't* rock you. I think it's lovely that you shared such kindness and thoughtfulness by stopping in to check on them...Trinityhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12133740026125341736noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1370623155565789372.post-90513115496637860662010-11-04T20:39:10.816-07:002010-11-04T20:39:10.816-07:00Unfortunately, we know exactly how this feels... t...Unfortunately, we know exactly how this feels... the loss of Tate is still fresh and I still tear up thinking about him. Give Bella an extra hug tonight. XOXO.Stefanie Blakelyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13084332204236959880noreply@blogger.com