tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1370623155565789372.post1893496741036123560..comments2023-05-09T02:54:19.314-07:00Comments on Park Slope Promised Land: Let's All Talk About My Uterus; or, TellingSecret Sloperhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16007764157682145537noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1370623155565789372.post-8262091612225881702011-05-25T14:57:54.714-07:002011-05-25T14:57:54.714-07:00I've had a really hard time with the telling o...I've had a really hard time with the telling of this pregnancy. With Liam, the triumph of getting pregnant after our struggle made me want to shout it from the rooftops. This time, it's more of a whisper. Sometimes I worry that people will judge that I'm pregnant again so soon. Sometimes, I worry about telling other IF friends. Sometimes, I'm still not sure how I'll handle everything.<br /><br />I know you get so nervous in between scans, but Smudgie is awesome and you really are getting close to that mythical "safe" zone.Stefanie Blakelyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13084332204236959880noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1370623155565789372.post-34255538998553138292011-05-24T16:46:27.731-07:002011-05-24T16:46:27.731-07:00I agree with Katie -- you should tell who you want...I agree with Katie -- you should tell who you want, when you want in whatever way you feel comfortable. Also, even though I'm fairly confident your baby is happy, healthy and adorable, I can appreciate your concerns. Try to not worry yourself too, too much though and take each day as it comes. There's just so much to celebrate right now and so much joy to feel -- I don't want you to miss out! *hugs*Jayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16045367738274404333noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1370623155565789372.post-39469726993784658512011-05-24T09:43:59.607-07:002011-05-24T09:43:59.607-07:00dr B is my fav, hands down. but dr S is my 2nd fav...dr B is my fav, hands down. but dr S is my 2nd fav, probably bc i've seen him for half my appointments so far. only started seeing more of dr R recently, so i think he's actually tied with dr S for 2nd place now. i actually really like them all. just not dr K, but i do concede that that might be bc i was having a super emotional day the one time i saw him, and he said something that rubbed me the wrong way.siennahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16982230898962770375noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1370623155565789372.post-53774429287216627632011-05-24T03:23:08.248-07:002011-05-24T03:23:08.248-07:00I had a really hard time telling a number of my co...I had a really hard time telling a number of my coworkers as well. My company has projects all over the world so I have coworkers with whome I have a fairly close working relationship but who I never SEE. And some of THEM still don't know that I'm pregnant. And I have less than a month until I start my leave... I need to figure out how to let them know! <br /><br />Those bumps and thumps are Smudgie reassuring you!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1370623155565789372.post-49139959369656890772011-05-23T14:19:41.631-07:002011-05-23T14:19:41.631-07:00Ah, I know this will totally be me. I'm alrea...Ah, I know this will totally be me. I'm already feeling super awkward about telling people and for most people it's still several weeks away. We haven't even told any of our family yet - glad to know I'm not the only one who feels this way.Lhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09616675420814694058noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1370623155565789372.post-10492765195002247842011-05-23T14:06:17.401-07:002011-05-23T14:06:17.401-07:00I STILL ask hubs if the babies are ok...like a tho...I STILL ask hubs if the babies are ok...like a thousand times a day...it's a sickness!! Good thing he's patient :)<br /><br />I think it's natural to feel awkward about telling people. I let the bump speak for itself at work and it definitely got awkward when I was really showing, but people were still to scared to ask! One woman said she thought I'd had an injury and stopped working out and gained some weight...when I was 6 mo pregnant. Gross! But funny.Alisonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02010422089639320117noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1370623155565789372.post-50637478483160892952011-05-23T13:01:14.790-07:002011-05-23T13:01:14.790-07:00Oh you know I feel for you on this front! I had a ...Oh you know I feel for you on this front! I had a horribly difficult time breaking the news to my coworkers. It was awkward and weird and just felt strange to come out and say, "I'm pregnant!" Even the Facebook post made extremely uneasy. But since then it's gotten much easier. I wonder if once you just open up to those in your building or to your friends that the anxiety over telling will ease up?<br /><br />Smudgie IS healthy and wonderful! And it's still only natural to worry. Seriously. So don't kill yourself worrying about worrying--it's normal.<br /><br />And the bump pics!!! You look so adorable and SO thin! I love the little bump. I can't wait t o watch you grow! xoxoSo-Calledhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12995728640451748880noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1370623155565789372.post-49570192212229493572011-05-23T12:35:46.339-07:002011-05-23T12:35:46.339-07:00Hmm... it sounds like you don't know a huge bl...Hmm... it sounds like you don't know a huge blabbermouth. This is one instance when those come in handy! :) I'm with you-- I let other people do most of the telling for me. I think it's fine to let your bump do the talking. Or your birth announcements (in the case of those long distance friends who you don't talk to very often).<br /><br />The anxiety-- ummmm, I'll let you know when it abates for me, if ever. I spent a good portion of yesterday studying SIDS statistics. Ay yi yi.Lesleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01015353387009923240noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1370623155565789372.post-11426039572323280082011-05-23T10:20:52.160-07:002011-05-23T10:20:52.160-07:00Oh, babe... I'm HORRIBLE at telling! I comple...Oh, babe... I'm HORRIBLE at telling! I completely feel for you! <br /><br />There are still doctors I work with who are *just* finding out through word-of-mouth. <br /><br />It just feels far too awkward to go up to people and be all, "Yeah, um, I'm totally pregnant. So... there's that." <br /><br />My feeling is--what do they care? I mean, unless we're really close friends or family, do people really care if I'm knocked up? My guess is no. But then when they find out down the road and are shocked, I feel bad about that too. <br /><br />Ugh... oh well. <br /><br />Happy halfway point! That slight fear is going to stay with us until these babies are born, I'm guessing. It seems to get easier and easier, though...Kellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16239548717452353436noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1370623155565789372.post-80578140267381024752011-05-23T08:22:36.019-07:002011-05-23T08:22:36.019-07:00i did the same thing egg did, asking hubby 10x'...i did the same thing egg did, asking hubby 10x's a day if the baby was okay. and then of course following it up with "but how do YOU *really* know??". i say do what comes naturally, and if natural is to keep this pregnancy to yourself to anyone but THE closest of friends and family, do it. i still haven't told a lot of ppl. 90% of my facebook friends have no clue. and they probably never will, since one of my "to do's" this week is to de-friend everyone who i don't *really* consider a good friend and who i don't want to share baby info with. this will probably leave me with about 10 friends :o) you've almost survived the longest stretch of no u/s! i'm super impressed you didn't ask for a "well being" check midway through, knowing they'd give you one. i believe the appts get closer together after this :o) xoxo.siennahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16982230898962770375noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1370623155565789372.post-72402966933424257352011-05-23T06:32:09.134-07:002011-05-23T06:32:09.134-07:00I also live in a coop bldg and I also went to grea...I also live in a coop bldg and I also went to great lengths to not share the bump news with the five other families in our six-flat. They figured out we were having twins when boxes holding double strollers and two car seats, etc, arrived!!! It's just a hard thing to tell.....I found it easier to share the news with randos, like a coffee shop barrista, than other folks in my life?!<br /><br />Smudgie is SO PERFECT in there, I promise. There's a nice lull in anxiety after an u/s and then I found that the anxiety would BUILD UP LIKE CRAZY in the final days before the next one. But your little baby is 110% okay sweet friend, don't let the anxiety fool you! Lean on that hubs of yours for reassurance! I asked mine a dozen times a day, "are the babies okay? really? truly? but how do you knoooooow?" xoxoAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1370623155565789372.post-83001659614288420672011-05-23T06:12:27.155-07:002011-05-23T06:12:27.155-07:00It's not rude. Everyone shares in their own wa...It's not rude. Everyone shares in their own way, and I think you need to do whatever you feel most comfortable with. It's YOUR body and YOUR bump. Share it how ever you feel is best, and screw anyone who has an opinion about it. It's not their news to tell.<br /><br />xoAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com